Archive for December, 2008
Dating from a Guy’s Perspective
On December - 8 - 2008
This past week was as thoroughly entertaining as it was informative. Thanks goes out to all of the unsuspecting volunteers I called to the stage, your input and honesty was invaluable to the conversation!
For those of you ladies that missed it, here’s some things we covered from the book: For Woman Only by Shaunti Feldahn
Surface Understanding #1: Men need respect.
What that means in practice: Men would rather feel unloved than inadequate and disrespected.
Surface Understanding #2: Men are insecure.
What that means in practice: Despite their “in control” exterior, men often feel like impostors and are insecure that their inadequacies will be discovered.
Surface Understanding #3: Men are providers.
What that means in practice: Even if you personally made enough income to support the family’s lifestyle, it would make no difference to the mental burden he feels to provide.
Surface Understanding #4: Men want more sex.
What That Means in Practice: Your sexual desire for your husband profoundly affects his sense of well-being and confidence in all areas of life.
Surface Understanding #5: Men are visual.
What that means in practice: Even happily married men struggle with being pulled toward live and recollected images of other women.
Surface Understanding #6: Men are unromantic clods.
What that means in practice: Actually, most men enjoy romance (sometimes in different ways) and want to be romantic — but hesitate because they doubt they can succeed.
Surface Understanding #7: Men care about appearance.
What that means in practice: You don’t need to be a size 3, but your man does need to see you making the effort to take care of yourself — and he will take on significant cost or inconvenience in order to support you.
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These are just tidbits of all that was shared. If you missed it, I’ll be posting the podcast this coming week.
Now, it’s the men’s turn to hear what WOMEN WANT… Samantha will be leading this conversation and I’m very much looking to see how I’m doing. This will be our last conversation of the year as the following week is our CHRISTMAS PARTY!!!
