Angus Nelson

So the discussion was about SEX this week.

We’ve all heard of abstinence and “just say no” type campaigns. But what about the practical sides of this topic? Instead of questioning if it’s right or not, we explored whether it was even wise or helpful to an un-married relationship.

There was much revealed about how sex changes things… “it moves an emotional relationship into a physical on”, “it causes a relationship to last longer than it should”, “sex makes a break-up that much harder and clouds the possibility of still remaining friends”, “effects one another’s ability to trust later in the relationship”, “sex really impacts my self-worth… I would use someone to get off, feel terrible and then repeat the cycle to try and feel better again” and “hinders honest perception in a relationship”.

What’s been your experience?

The conclusion`to the conversation went something like this:
“Are you willing to love someone the way God loves you?”
“Are you willing to wait until you’re committed to someone without condition before having sex?”

What would that look like for you?

Is it even possible to achieve that kind of relationship in your life?

Anyone that knows me, knows that I like to wear clothes with a certain amount of intentional flair. Admittedly, my “taste” is a bit on the loud side. I like to call it: “make a statement” kind-of -couture.

My wife has commented on some of my shirts saying that only I could pull off wearing them – I’m sure that’s a compliment…I hope it’s a compliment!

In order to find these extroverted expressions of clothing, I maintain an ever alert state of readiness when shopping. It’s a challenge I thoroughly enjoy.

Twice in the past 2 weeks, I passed through Scottsboro and stopped at Unclaimed Baggage, finding a plethora of fashionable duds. I couldn’t decide what to buy. Even on my second trip, I walked away with nothing.

Was it price? Was it the wrong name brand? Was it texture?

None of the above.

It was time, or lack thereof.

Many guys I know just want to grab a shirt, any shirt, “slide in” and go.

That would be great except for the fact that some shirts might not be the best fit. In fact, a shirt may be uncomfortable or cause irritation… Truth is, some shirts may even make you look like a fool.

There are too many unique, varied and enticing options. Yet, putting in the time, being patient in finding the right shirt and not just any shirt, that’s really the key to being happy with your decision.

We’re talking about SEX this week. Sex is supposed to be so pleasurable and satisfying. Why does it leave so many feeling so bad?

Are you too sexy for the “right” shirt?

This week we’ve started a series on Relationships… Through the course of the first conversation, we concluded that most of us human beings have a pretty poor perception of ourselves. In fact, one of the quotes was that “we suck”.

This is pretty tragic to realize that in our search for love, we merely hope to usurp that of another instead of offer anything in return. Therefore, two individuals end up sucking the life out of each other.

One person even commented that “we can’t give what we don’t have”. This is a very true statement. The conclusion being… to seek He who is love, first and foremost. Not in some cliche’ religious, church-attending, Bible-thumping, passage memorizing fashion. But rather a personal discovery, intimately connecting to a one-on-one dialog.

If this has any creedance, what does that look like?

How does one practically and relevantly walk that out?

Have you discovered this truth to be true in your own life?